It feels like it's impossible to find a girlfriend that I'd like?

I really think I'm far far far behind on the dating scene compared to everyone else my age. Or used to be my age. I'm 22. Pretty much all of my friends have already had sex, a few of my friends whom I known from school have had kids. Some lost their virginity at age 16 and crap like that, even my one gay friend had sex with a girl when he likes guys. When he was trying to be straight. I just don't understand why no attractive girls find me interesting, I drive a cool car, I have money, I have a full time job, I have a promising future ahead of me...just minus that girlfriend. I'm not asking for much. Attractive, thin, she doesn't have to be a model by any means, but cute enough. I've settled for girls in the past who were overweight and it really made me not enjoy the experience I've had dating them. My only way of dating has been online as it's just so hard for me to get one offline. Most of the time they're already taken, no one pays attention to me or acknowledges I exist, and if I made a move - I'd fear that I'd get beaten up by the guy who they're with. I'm thin, not overweight, tall. So I got those couple of things on my side. Everyone puts so much emphases on sex these days it just makes me feel like a failure at life for not having done it yet, and pretty much every girl on the dating sites say something in their profile about not having sex. I mean, I want to earn it. After finding compatibility, but the way they talk, it sounds like they don't want it at all. The last girl I dated dumped me because she had personal space issues, when I tried to make a move to make out with her. We dated for 6 months. By that time, it seems everyone else has gotten far past that stage. I wasn't even happy dating her because she was one of the ones that fits into the unattractive / I wish I had a more attractive girlfriend type. I would be very happy about life if I had that, but I don't. I hate being alone and single. But even it feels better if someone talks to me, like I can only get the last resort girls and no one better than that. I want to pay for dating sites, as I'm on the free ones right now, and I read a lot of horror stories about how there's a lot of fake profiles and how they charge their members even after they cancel. It seems I can never win with any of this, and it's just stressing me out to the max all the time. I really regret not dating in high school, because I was afraid of what my parents would think if I did. I found out they were acceptable to it, me dating, after I joined online and met a few people. Ugh.